tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post8904953760805843364..comments2023-05-06T11:17:25.220-05:00Comments on Refractions and Reflections: May, Day 8: Learn To Recognize a LieMelodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16903490863599975122noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-56362513623998275562013-05-12T08:07:07.124-05:002013-05-12T08:07:07.124-05:00This is also what prevents a person from being hel...This is also what prevents a person from being helped by others. When they believe a lie about themselves, you can't help them unless you can get them to stop believing in the lie, which is very difficult to do. They have to do most of that work themselves. Great advice!<br /><br />Kristen's latest #BlogEveryDayInMay post: <a href="http://kristenhead.blogspot.com/2013/05/everyday-in-may-honesty-is-key.html" rel="nofollow">Everyday in May: Honesty is the key</a>Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08827651632884248765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-73634571148886169062013-05-10T05:49:22.205-05:002013-05-10T05:49:22.205-05:00Thanks for visiting and for your lovely comment!Thanks for visiting and for your lovely comment!Treat and Trickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12279031202559017089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-79175285433137170312013-05-08T22:16:38.354-05:002013-05-08T22:16:38.354-05:00Well said, Melody. Thank you for this post.Well said, Melody. Thank you for this post.LD Mastersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01202135756299574972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-2758100561593009132013-05-08T17:51:14.616-05:002013-05-08T17:51:14.616-05:00Very well written post, Melody. Food for thought....Very well written post, Melody. Food for thought.<br /><br />I believe that ignorance is the greatest of prisons. To educate ourselves we must take risks, and risk-taking is an awesome task in a world not yet explored.<br /><br />Thank you for your encouragement. You are a beacon of Hope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-18368203562157428472013-05-08T10:55:47.943-05:002013-05-08T10:55:47.943-05:00Wow, Melody. A very powerful post.
I would ventur...Wow, Melody. A very powerful post.<br /><br />I would venture to guess that no one escapes family dysfunction of one kind or another. The question is the type and degree.<br /><br />We do seem to accept what we are born into, and we become formed by it. But there is a quote from a Mary Chapin Carpenter song that I have always remembered: "We've got two lives. One we're given, and the other one we make."<br /><br />Not only are we fed family attitudes, but we are lied to by the media, I would venture to say, in this: You are not good enough. How do I mean that? Look at all the marketing strategies that imply that in some way you need to improve yourself to be worthy. Are your teeth white enough? Are you 'hip' enough? Of course, the ever present Are you thin enough? But there are so many messages coming at all of us, from birth, that who we are is not good enough. Marketing seems to work, I'd say we tend to believe it.<br /><br />I do agree with you that we are imprisoned by our own negative beliefs about ourselves, and sadly what we choose affects others. A healthy outlook can be hard to achieve but it is worth working toward. It makes me sad when any one believes the worst about themselves and then acts based on that.<br /><br />Great post!wsbharkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12896808265604736376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-79047445616522907062013-05-08T08:58:30.927-05:002013-05-08T08:58:30.927-05:00I know from experience that you can change the cyc...I know from experience that you can change the cycle. I wasn't close to my parents and I was determined I was never going to be like that with my girls and I'm glad to say that we are very close.<br /><br /><br /><br />Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04091316384209330776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-24659456761531784512013-05-08T07:38:09.729-05:002013-05-08T07:38:09.729-05:00wow, you put it really well. it makes me think abo...wow, you put it really well. it makes me think about my life Nikenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17568245786486683854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-71474792311310323672013-05-08T04:13:15.716-05:002013-05-08T04:13:15.716-05:00That is a great thought. I would guess you are cor...That is a great thought. I would guess you are correct. Thank you for commenting!Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16903490863599975122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-24159436817368133722013-05-08T04:01:31.507-05:002013-05-08T04:01:31.507-05:00I watched the movie and saw the cycle of shame, de...I watched the movie and saw the cycle of shame, defeatist behavior, and ignorance (both social and educational). I wondered if that false pride was a defense against feeling the pain of forced social isolation from the community. True that everyone has choices. But those choices are of no use if you don't even know they're available to you. Great post Miss Melody.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-30272640035736498172013-05-08T03:37:43.758-05:002013-05-08T03:37:43.758-05:00this is some really good advice. if you believe yo...this is some really good advice. if you believe you will be unlucky you will see everything in an unlucky light just like a self-fulfilling prophecy. So if you believe you have no other choice than being the way you are right now you might can't see how to change or want to...maybePoke The Rockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11625126197212837793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-87459568730720582362013-05-08T03:12:19.638-05:002013-05-08T03:12:19.638-05:00I would be perfectly happy if my family life was o...I would be perfectly happy if my family life was ok. but I am positive that I have a life to live whether or not they want to be in it or no.<br /><br />Great post.<br />Yvonne.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7388913446076122152.post-569174856670657652013-05-08T03:12:06.489-05:002013-05-08T03:12:06.489-05:00Very deep and thoughtful post. So many people are ...Very deep and thoughtful post. So many people are trapped in lives they don't want because they don't know any better and believe themselves powerless to change it. <br /><br />Fact is, anything can be changed if you fight hard enough. Misha Gerrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06364173848456424521noreply@blogger.com